My response was to build ceiling light encasement making sure no part of light bulb was visible.
There is more to consider when thinking of reflective light-----natural light for example. I take time now and then to look at light and shadow against walls to think about from where that light source comes. If there is a camera anywhere in my living space----it may be the source of that light.
TRACK NIGHT-TIME LIGHT AND SHADOW.
Most light against walls at night is coming from outside-----mostly street/alley lighting being reflected off inside walls. I blocked light source to eliminate reflection to assure that light on wall was from a source other than possible CAMERA inside living space. Walls and paint are not REFLECTIVE in same way GLASS/MIRROR are. So, paint saying it is reflective does not mean a surveillance camera can use that wall as they do MIRRORS AND GLASS.
SIMPLY MAKE SURE NOW AND THEN THAT LIGHT REFLECTION ON WALL OR CEILING IS NOT COMING FROM AN ILLEGAL SURVEILLANCE CAMERA.
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At this point I feel I have studied these reflective VULNERABILITIES and built structures to block illegal surveillance camera ---although I am aware that illegal MICROPHONE activity still exists.
Please take time to think from where light and shadow on ceilings and walls are generated.This is what was capturing me by NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG while I was unaware------
One more thought in protecting myself against NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG-----regarding WALLS AND CEILINGS----take note of nail/anchored hook holes that have been left OPEN. If I can look up and see a HOLE in ceiling, then there can be a ILLEGAL CAMERA in that hole. Even small nail holes can be a problem although unless NOSY NEIGHBOR has access to interior walls----not likely for CAMERA to be opposite a small nail hole.
Leaving this theme of WALLS AND CEILINGS-----REFLECTIONS ON GLASS AND MIRRORS-----the theme of HOLES created specifically to hide NOSY NEIGHBOR CAMERAS------brings me to discovering a common spying location being along BATHTUB EDGE-----where CAULKING should be---but may be corrupted/and/or having a HOLE along that tub edge large enough for an ILLEGAL NOSY NEIGHBOR CAMERA. I found just that -----the most likely place for these to be placed is on FRONT PANEL of tub ------since victim is sitting or standing in direction of shower head/tub fixtures. Not many people place their backs on side of tube having those hot/cold water fixtures---so, that is where any corruption in CAULKING leaving a HOLE may be found.
Although this FRONT VIEW behind CAULKING may be primary location----any corruption of CAULKING around tub should be addressed/covered.
How to install or Setting Up A Pinhole Spy Camera In Drywall
Published on Feb 26, 2011
A walk through the process of Installing a pin hole camera in a drywall ceiling or ceiling tile to observe areas of concern such as a cash register. The process includes the removal of drywall to make a place for the camera.
Tenets tend to ignore what we think of as SMALL problems like HOLES IN WALLS-----CAULKING not up to par-----but we should not ignore this. Same with people renting HOUSES. If a landlord does not fix these problems----GO TO THE HARDWARE STORE and fix them yourself.
Gaps can be along tub edge---or even gaps in tub fixtures like hot/cold faucets-----any fixture on front of tub should NOT HAVE A GAP.
DO NOT BUY CLEAR CAULK------AS WITH ALL OPAQUE PRODUCTS---CAMERA CAN GO RIGHT THROUGH.
How to Seal Large Gaps Between the Tub and the Wall
Written by Sarabeth Asaff; Updated December 19, 2018
- 1 Fill the Gap Between the Bathtub & Flooring
- 2 Fill a Tub Spout Gap
- 3 Fill a Gap Between a Tub Spout Flange & a Fiberglass Surround
- 4 Seal a Gap in a Wall Bath Spout
A gap between your tub and the wall it adjoins is actually left there on purpose. This is called an expansion joint and allows for some movement between the tub and the wall. No matter how large or small the gap is, fill it with a flexible, waterproof material like caulk to help keep moisture out.
Gaps up to 1/4 Inch
Fill gaps up to 1/4 inch in width with caulk. If you have tile on the wall adjoining the tub, select a caulk that matches the color of the grout. If your gap is smaller than 1/8 inch in width, use regular caulk; fill gaps larger than 1/8 inch with a sanded caulk. Make sure the gap is clean and dry, then squeeze a thin, even bead of caulk into the space. To get the best coverage, cut the tip of the caulk tube so the bead that emerges completely fills the gap. Wet down your index finger and smooth out the caulk once it fills the gap.
Gaps up to 1/2 inch Wide
Fill gaps between 1/4 and 1/2 inch in width with two beads of caulk set side by side. Apply one bead directly along the edge of the tub and the second bead along the edge of the wall. Carefully smooth out the caulk in the joint with a wet index finger to join the two caulk beads. Do this step carefully; depending on what is below the gap you may end up pushing the caulk too far in. If this happens, or if you know the gap is deep, remove the caulk and do not use this method.
Deep or Very Wide Gaps
Fill very deep or very wide gaps up to 6 inches with a backer rod before applying the caulk. Backer rods are flexible foam tubes of different densities. They can be made of several different materials; make sure to buy one that is made for wet areas and that is nonporous so it will not absorb moisture or water. Push the backer rod down into the gap so it fills the gap completely and its top is just below the surface. Once the backer rod is in place, squeeze a bead of caulk onto each side of the rod where it joins the tub and wall to seal the space.
Use a Tub Flange
While some tubs come with a built-in lip, others may require a larger, L-shaped flange to help close a medium-sized gap between the tub and wall. The horizontal plane of the flange attaches to the edge of the tub, while the vertical plane extends upwards; the tile or tub surround is installed on top, hiding it. If you have just begun the tub installation and find that there is a gap, consider attaching a flexible tub flange. Once the flange is in place, install the tub surround over the top of it. When the wall is finished, apply a bead of caulk on top of the flange to help give the tub area a finished appearance.
Since discovering my living space was captured by illegal surveillance cameras and microphones------my concern was images captured by by DAY OR NIGHT. My knowledge of NIGHT VISION CAMERA products not good. As I discovered locations of cameras my thoughts were trying to make that image - capture harder thinking making a room DARK-----may eliminate ability of SPY CAMERA to capture my image. I worked hard especially in BATHROOM to secure a space for undress/bathing.....total darkness thinking that may leave any camera that I might miss unable to capture my image.
As I listened to FEEDBACK------the chatter saying my image was still being captured ----even in a DARK BATHROOM----I started to research night-vision spy camera abilities. My initial understanding was -----infrared cameras capturing BODY HEAT-----not creating a clear image----not suitable for illegal streaming video PORN.
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Below I find a SPYTEC CAMERA which may indeed be used IN THE DARK to capture image for NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG-----illegal pornography.
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Originally, I thought light bulbs having a LED capacity was the only way a LIGHT BULB could be captured. Studying this led to a different hypothesis-----any light bulb clear or opaque can be used as a CAMERA. My description of LED light bulbs with a strong plastic base enhancing LIGHT BULB capability seemed at first not creating any different harm than regular light bulbs. Then, as I was thinking about CAMERA capture DAY VS NIGHT-----that difference DID come to play.
Below I share what that difference can be for NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG-----in spy camera equipment-----the need for NIGHT VISION is critical and PRODUCTS as below seek to solve that need.
It appears there are spy cameras having NIGHT VISION capability-----but as well, when we buy LED LIGHT BULBS------with infrared light emitter capability------we are allowing NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG tapping into our electrical system to transfer that night vision from HIDDEN CAMERAS ----to our ORDINARY LAMPS/LIGHT FIXTURES.
So, I had LED LIGHT BULBS as ceiling lights-----which I now think made it possible for illegal surveillance and PORN to be captured at NIGHT IN THE DARK. Not only ceiling light bulbs---but those lamps at floor level ----many people are buying LED LIGHT BULBS because they are told these bulbs are ENERGY EFFICIENT. They do not in most cases understand the INFRARED LIGHT EMITTING function which can be USED AGAINST THEM by NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG.
IR LED (infrared light-emitting diode)
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An IR LED (infrared light emitting diode) is a solid state lighting (SSL) device that emits light in the infrared range of the electromagnetic radiation spectrum.
IR LEDs allow for cheap, efficient production of infrared light, which is electromagnetic radiation in the 700 nm to 1mm range. IR LEDs are useful in a number of types of electronics, including many types of remote controls for televisions and other electronics. Used with infrared cameras, IR LEDs can act like a spot light while remaining invisible to the naked eye.
Because IR LEDs can be used in conjunction with a number of different types of sensors, they are becoming common in machine-to-machine (M2M) environments and Internet of Things (IoT) applications.
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THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING IN MY LIVING SPACE----IN MY COMMUNITY---IN MY CITY OF BALTIMORE----saturated NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG ----illegal surveillance and PORNOGRAPHY----using these kinds of SPYING PRODUCTS.
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When I first discovered my living space was captured by illegal surveillance cameras and microphones I tried to envision the 5Ws of WHO is doing this----WHY they are doing this-----WHERE are those devices----WHEN did it start and HOW will I stop it.
n. generic term for all persons convicted of crimes involving sex, including rape, molestation, sexual harassment and pornography production or distribution. In mosst states convicted sex offenders are supposed to report to local police authorities, but many do not. (See: rape, molestation, sexual harassment, pornography)'
From thinking this case was maybe a single-sexual predator ---to understanding this illegal surveillance and PORNOGRAPHY is ORGANIZED CRIME having a NETWORK tied to PORNOGRAPHY------I was able to move from the idea that I was dealing with a first time SEXUAL OFFENDER------and advancing to the category of CRIMINAL label of SEXUAL PREDATOR.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING IN MY CASE---NOSY NEIGHBOR AND THE GANG----MY LIVING SPACE---MY COMMUNITY SATURATED WITH SEXUAL PREDATORS.
'Using words and actions, the predator will undermine her every move'
How to spot a sexual predator – the 8 characteristicsHealthista Expert
Healthista ExpertPosted January 25, 2019
The former first minister of Scotland Alex Salmond has been charged with two counts of attempted rape and nine counts of sexual assault. In light of this, we ask therapist Leonie Adamson from the video counselling app Dr Julian how to spot the signs of a sexual predator
The former first minister of Scotland Alex Salmond has been charged with two counts of attempted rape, nine counts of sexual assault and two of indecent assault.
Alex Salmond has said outside court that he was ‘innocent of any criminality’ and that he would ‘defend himself to the utmost’.
Mr Salmond, has been under investigation into allegations by two women that he sexually harassed them several years ago.
He’s the latest powerful name exposed as an alleged sexual predator.
12 months ago, when we were almost at the point of thinking the Hollywood sexual harassment scandal couldn’t get any worse, more allegations were been made against movie mogul Harvey Weinstein who has become the unlikely emblem of the current wave of #MeToo fuelled feminism.
Writing for the New York Times, Hollywood darling Salma Hayek described her story of assault, degradation and harassment at the hands of the director.
Her story traced the sexual advancements, the sweet talking and even the death threats. ‘I will kill you, don’t think I can’t,’ she alleges he told her. At it’s worst, Hayek was forced into a sex scene with another woman to avoid being kicked off the film, Frida – a movie she had spent years researching and preparing for. This scene left her crying and convulsing as she had a nervous breakdown, ‘I had to take a tranquillizer, which eventually stopped the crying but made the vomiting worse.’
Salma Hayek penned an article for The New York Times alleging abuse at the hands of Weinstein
And she’s not alone, in an Instagram post, Cara Delevigne has described feeling ‘powerless and scared’ in the face of Weinstein and the number of women alleging abuse (including rape) rises every day. Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Asia Argento, Ashley Judd, Rose McGowan, Rosanna Arquette and many more are among the women who have come forward.
But Weinstein isn’t the only offender. Ex Harrods boss Mohammad Al-Fayed came under the spotlight last week as women came forward to speak out on a Channel 4 Dispatches show about how the businessman forced himself on them. One woman was as young as 17. Al-Fayed hasn’t commented on the show but has denied allegations of sexual assault and rape in the past and no charges have been brought.
In the light of recent events, it is timely to uncover just who a sexual predator is, in both straight and same sex relationships.
How to spot a sexual predator‘They can wield a lot of control and power’, says therapist Leonie Adamson who has 10 years clinical practice who specialises in sexual abuse. ‘But the most interesting thing to consider is why they don’t stand out from the crowd. Often people will talk about them being creepy or lecherous, but without any substantive information, there is no real proof. Some people will know only too well what they are capable of, such as the celebrities that have come forward about Harvey Weinstein, but won’t want to “rock the boat”, perhaps fearful of any repercussions this may have on them.’
Using words and actions, the predator will undermine her every move
‘I have counselled many women who have experienced sexual trauma. They have been emotionally scarred, lost their sense of identity, and live with the experience every single day’, says Leonie.’It starts with the cycle of abuse and very quickly becomes a nightmare, from which there is no escape. Using words and actions, the predator will undermine her every move, dictate every thought and in the end, he will have ultimate power and control over her everyday life.
‘In many cases, victims weren’t believed, and this has caused them further distress. In some cases, they have come from abusive families themselves and their sense of self-worth is so low, that they feel they deserve to be treated badly. However, because the sexual predator flourishes in silence and covert behaviour, the mask must be uncovered to help free victims from this abuse. Their voices must be hard and respected. Always.’
1. He’s really attentive in the early stages
In the initial stages of the relationship, the preparator will be very attentive. Lots of calls and texts which seem quite innocent. This does not mean that they are a predator, but if it continues and intensifies then they are worrying signs. This is how the perpetrator begins to build the process of dependency of the victim. They will be very much the answer to their dreams, a knight in shining armour, and would certainly never hurt them. They are being protected, loved, respected, and are the focus of the predator. This is the beginning of the grooming process. The perpetrator will use their loyalty, and vulnerability against them at a later stage.
2. He uses manipulative language
The element of gaslighting will be slow but carefully introduced, whereby the predator will mock the victim on her clothes, friends, or anything else which doesn’t meet his expectation. When the victim challenges the predator (in the early stages), he will lie, twist the information, make her feel like she is the bad person, state how hurt he is, and that he doesn’t deserve this kind of treatment. After all he has been so good to her. In the end, emotionally exhausted, and feeling very stressed she will relent and accept that it was all her fault and apologise. This shows the predator that he can control and manipulate her, without any fear that she may challenge him.
3. He makes it seem normal
The victim has now normalised the behaviour and feels that perhaps this is what she is deserves. This cycle of abuse has now begun, the initial honeymoon period is over, the uncomfortable feeling that something was wrong is now clearer and the “explosion” where the predator makes his move is now a reality. This pattern will start with emotional and psychological abuse and ultimately include sexual abuse.
4. He plays the victim
There’s a real sense of grandiose behaviour associated with this kind of man. Never taking responsibility and always playing the victim. This kind of cool indifference is very similar to narcissism, but again not all narcissists are sexual predators. They will use coercive control to get the victim to play the deadly game of cat and mouse and will always blame her for what goes wrong, or if she refuses will degrade her in whatever way he feels is necessary to teach her a lesson. Women who have experienced sexual abuse as a child are perhaps more vulnerable to this type of grooming and will be re-traumatised as a result.
5. He ridicules her
A sexual predator will have no consideration for her thoughts and feelings, instead focusing on himself. He will be making sexual comments to her, commenting on her performance, isolating her insecurities to use as bait later. Needing to know every detail about her past experiences is also an indicator. The predator can then ridicule her using degrading language to her and using words that insult and belittle her.
6. He pushes her boundaries sexually
He will have no respect for healthy boundaries, always needing to push you to carry out tasks which are not comfortable for you. He’ll get a huge kick out of this, and is likely to be vigilant in his approach, regardless of the victims fear and anxiety. There could be suggestions of risky sexual behaviour, in which the victim engages with other men and the predator watches. He will then use this to blackmail her later, and this is the start of the cruel aspect of the behaviour, where the victim will feel totally humiliated and trapped in the relationship.
7. He disempowers her
All the while he will be assuring the victim that the behaviours are okay, and that he loves her. He will try and normalise her distress and tell her that she has done it before and will again. That people now know that she is promiscuous and that she is lucky that he stays with her. All feeding into the destruction of her confidence, which will disempower her. Overwhelmed and lonely, she has no family to talk to, and he will have isolated her from any friends who could have helped. They were a threat to him, they could have seen behind his mask, and influenced her. So, they had to be eradicated sooner rather than later.
8. He secretly boasts about his conquests
Finally, a sexual predator will boast of his conquests and make the victim feel less of a woman as he describes his other relationships. Reliving the relationship, and knowing he is causing distress, he needs a reaction to fuel his game. He will have no concept of what is appropriate if he is not inconvenienced in any way. He will be a different person to the outside world, which just negates anything she says about him – his mask never slips.